How do you deal with overwhelming stress? and you have a spouse, a bunch of kids, house, demanding job,?

financial woes, etc., etc. all to deal with. And i am not talking regular everyday stress. I am talking the kind of stress that you get when every aspect of your life seems to have huge issues ... huge ... not little ones easily dealt with. I have made the list of stuff to deal with, but i cant do it all, or delegate. I feel like the deer in the headlites waiting for that car to smack me headon cuz i am frozen. Any advice?